Comments on: The Hardest Job You’ll Ever Love, version 2.0 http://www.idivamemphis.com/2008/04/30/the-hardest-job-youll-ever-love-version-20/ Just another WordPress weblog Mon, 22 Aug 2011 21:09:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Debra http://www.idivamemphis.com/2008/04/30/the-hardest-job-youll-ever-love-version-20/comment-page-1/#comment-3599 Debra Wed, 30 Apr 2008 19:35:08 +0000 http://www.idivamemphis.com/2008/04/30/the-hardest-job-youll-ever-love-version-20/#comment-3599 I had a friend in college who cut. It was terrifying to realize and not know what to do, I was just an 18 year-old kid myself. Later, it was hard to deal with officials who tried to force her into therapy with threats of expulsion from the school. She opened up to myself and another friend and that helped US more than anything. I still didn't like it (hated it, actually) but I was able to deal with it and let her know that I was there for her, no matter what. Thankfully she was able to work through her issues and hasn't cut in over three years. In addition, her experience with bad therapists has encouraged her to get her PhD so she could provide REAL help to people who faced some of the same demons. The bottom line is that the real horror of cutting isn't the cuts themselves but the feelings that cause people to cut. Offer love and support and no pressure and that's more help than anything. I had a friend in college who cut. It was terrifying to realize and not know what to do, I was just an 18 year-old kid myself. Later, it was hard to deal with officials who tried to force her into therapy with threats of expulsion from the school. She opened up to myself and another friend and that helped US more than anything. I still didn’t like it (hated it, actually) but I was able to deal with it and let her know that I was there for her, no matter what.

Thankfully she was able to work through her issues and hasn’t cut in over three years. In addition, her experience with bad therapists has encouraged her to get her PhD so she could provide REAL help to people who faced some of the same demons.

The bottom line is that the real horror of cutting isn’t the cuts themselves but the feelings that cause people to cut. Offer love and support and no pressure and that’s more help than anything.

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