I ran into a friend at Starbucks this morning who had just dropped her kid off at school, and was waiting for her husband, who’d also been dropping off a kid, to meet her. As I watched her get in his car and drive away — they were planning breakfast, but who knows where? Maybe it wasn’t even going to involve food … — I thought, What a great idea: A weekday “date.”

My husband and I have a long-standing Saturday night date-night tradition, but, as business takes off and he works more nights than ever, the idea of a daytime rendezvous sounds even more appealing.

How do you and your mate make time for each other during a busy week? A breakfast getaway? Flirting by BlackBerry? Kiss and tell …

I saw the story, and still don’t quite believe it: In a recent survey, builders and architects predict that by 2015, 60 percent of custom homes will have dual master bedrooms. Some designers don’t call it that — they speak of in-law suites, children’s wings — but their clients want separate spaces so one partner doesn’t wake the other one up with snoring, e-mailing, or just a different sleep schedule. And it gets worse … one “older woman” (that’s what they called her in the story), said, “I’ve paid my dues. I’m old enough that I don’t want to have sex at 1 a.m.”
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Let’s cut to the chase.

Who had sex this weekend?

Who was just too freakin’ tired from running the kids around?

Who wanted it bad, but it just didn’t happen?

Who sooooo didn’t want it to happen, but put up with it anyway?

According to the Kinsey Institute, that renowned repository of all research sexual, 3 percent of us married women haven’t had sex in the past year; 12 percent of us have had it a few times in the past year; 47 percent of us have had hot sex a few times a month, and 32 percent went for it two or three times a week. You other 7 percent have been getting it on 4 or more times a week. (Oh, there was a time, she says with a sigh…)

You would think the numbers for married men would be the same, and I guess if you factor in the margin of error, they are: 1 percent of married men said they haven’t had sex in the past year; 13 percent reported a few times in the past year; 43 percent have had sex a few times in the past month, while 36 percent have heated up the sheets two to three times a week. That other 7 percent has been busy, busy, busy. In a good way.

You single women — yes, you who complain about not having a man — might have a point. About 32 percent of non-married women told Kinsey researchers they haven’t had sex in the past year. But that means 68 percent of you have. It’s time to dish the details!

So what’s going on in Memphis? Do we beat the national figures? Or are we living in the hot Delta, not having hot sex? And what about you suburban women? Are you having enough sex to put the city girls to shame?

I’ll get the confession ball rolling: Sex this weekend? Nope, too busy being The Guest Diva.

(Posted by Guest Diva Carolyn McAtee Cerbin)

Yes, Valentine’s is a day for sweet thoughts, kids’ school parties and cut-out construction paper hearts, but when I found this stunning Henri Cartier-Bresson photo on the Slate slide show today, I thought, “Yep, THIS is Valentine’s Day.” Looks new, but it was really taken in Mexico City in 1934. I defy you to look at this picture and not get turned on, even just a little …

How does your husband/boyfriend/lover/partner light your fire?

Don’t you love TV couples? They just keep yearning and yearning — even sometimes after they sleep together — which, of course, keeps us watching and watching. Leave it to the Chicago Sun-Times hilarious TV writer, Doug Elfman, to lead us right where we’re dying to go in a wonderful article about unrequited love. As he writes, “So you’re single and lonely. Or you’re not 100 percent emotionally fulfilled by your relationship. I think those two categories cover every American.” Be sure not to miss the Hall of Fame flirts, including our own Cybill Shepherd, in her (long ago) role as Maddie in “Moonlighting.”

So who’s your favorite unrequited TV couple? Me, I love the sexual tension on “Grey’s Anatomy.” McDreamy, anyone?